So I haven’t put Clare to sleep, meaning rocked her or bounced her to sleep in my arms, for 3 months. At some point she just got to ornery and long and heavy to spend a half hour bouncing her around the house. We decided to stop and allow her to fall asleep on her own. We thought it would teach her independence and help her discover self soothing techniques.
But basically it was just torture. Just prolonged torture.
She got pretty good at falling asleep on her own. But on the chance that we were anywhere but home or if she disagreed with me in the least way… FORGET IT! She would scream and scream until the slot for nap time was over and we moved on to the next option which always seemed to be eating…a lot, which is draining…literally.
It’s embarrassing and even though Clare is still pleasant I feel ridiculous in front of other people who are like, “Are you letting your precious baby scream like that? Really?”
I am because she is tired and I know it and I’m not going to bounce a 15 pound baby around, who will cry even if I’m holding her, while you stare at me or worst, try and have a conversation with me.
Anyway, our technique worked fine. Clare is great at going to sleep but recently she discovered a will that she didn’t previously knew she had. So we’ve been fighting over nap time.
15 minutes of screaming then 10 minutes of comfort then 15 more minutes of screaming and then she generally goes down.
But I just can’t take the screaming any more. It’s torture as I said before. I’ve gained like 10 pounds because all I can do is eat chocolate while Clare wails away. Yeah. I’m serious. Like at least 2 pounds of chocolate while she is upset.
The worst part is that her eczema flares when she is stressed. So the more she cries the more itchy she gets and the more she scratches and gets worked up.
I had to find another method but Clare doesn’t like to be held when she is tired. So that left me with few options.
So last night it started – the screaming. I looked at Andrew like, “SAVE ME!!!”
He looked back and shrugged. “Val, you have to let her learn.”
I went back in anyway and out of desperation started rubbing her little back.
Well people…she calmed right the heck down. IN MINUTES!
Then, I did it again this morning and it worked like a charm.
SERIOUSLY PEOPLE?! THAT’S IT?!
That’s all it took?
I should have known. She looks just like Andrew she would fall asleep the same way too. If I so much as lay a hand on Andrew’s back he starts falling asleep. Well, not really. I exaggerate but you can see his whole presence relax.
Why didn’t I think of that?!
Of course now that I put it on the internet she won’t ever fall asleep that way again….