Of hearing this!!!
“I’m a bad mom.”
“I’m such a bad mom. I let my baby do this or that.”
I HATE hearing that. And let me tell you…I say it myself. I’ve said it a million times.
Let me say once and for all…You are not a bad mom! Neither am I.
You are gave birth to your child.
You provide food and shelter for your child.
You LOVE your child.
You’re not a bad mom if you let your baby sleep on their stomach or if you can’t breast feed your child? You’re not a bad mom if you have to put your baby in day care. You’re not a bad mom if you eat lunch while your baby is awake! (literally I’ve heard a friend say this) You’re not a bad mom if you let them cry or if you brush your teeth or your hair or put some make up on while they coo in their crib. You’re not a bad mom if you go on a date. You’re not a bad mom if you don’t have the nursery perfectly clean all the time or if your baby gets acne or HECK, any number of skin diseases. You’re not a bad mom if you forget socks or a hat or whatever. You’re not a bad mom if you don’t read to your baby every day. You’re not a bad mom if your baby doesn’t roll over or talk or walk or crawl or drool as soon as their supposed to.
You’re there, which is more than a lot of children get from their parents. I read that close to 3 million children were homeless, meaning they did not live with EITHER parent, in the year 2004.
Look, you’re in your child’s life. You care for them, bath them, feed them, take them to their doctors appointments. So what if you’re not doing things on the same schedule as that other kid that all the books are written about.
You don’t abuse your child or neglect them. Who cares if you put them in their excersaucer while you make dinner?
If we want to stop the rampant negative self image problems in this nation then we have to start trusting and loving ourselves in front of our kids.
Who cares if you don’t do a single thing the way people tell you to? If you’re listening to your baby and meeting their needs, you’re doing the right thing.
So let’s start now. No more “I’m such a bad mom.” talk any more. Every time you hear that creeping into your head just say, “I’m a good mom. I love my baby. I’m herefor them. No one else can care for my baby as well as I can.”
I’ll be the first.
I’m a good mom. I love Clare. I’m here for her. No one else can care for Clare as well as I can…except maybe Andrew.